By Michael Robinson

Why discuss living better?

Many commentators have identified that we are living longer. But are we going to live well? Is there anything we can do about how we live – do we actually have choices? And what do we regards as a good life as we grow older? This is why we need to discuss living better?

Most of us have observed the ageing of our own parents, and are confronting our own ageing challenges. Few of us want to end up in a nursing home, and it is fair to say that many of us don’t want the experience of our parents.

While we can probably describe what we don’t want, we can’t necessarily explain what we do want, except in broad terms such as independence, choice, dignity, respect etc. Why do we need to discuss living better?

Firstly, if we can’t describe what we do want, then we will get what others have decided for us.

Secondly, to help us identify how things have to change to get what we do want. And change will inevitably take time.

So we need to discuss how we want to live for the rest of our lives, before it is too late. Otherwise we will just have to accept what is on offer, what others’ have designed for us.

This conversation is for those who are interested in living independently at home, and taking responsibility for their own well being and rest-of-life-life journeys.

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Sandra

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Sandra

In June, Sandra helped set her mum up on LivBetter.  Now her mum can ask for help from any of her children, and grandchilden, without having to waste time phoning around.  Sandra’s siblings and their partners love it because they no longer have to play favourites with mum, they can offer to do what they want …

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Nursing home question

The Nursing Home Question

Navigating aged care

Most who have been exposed to the aged care system will tell you that it is a challenging experience.  And the nursing home question – finding and funding the right care for older relatives – often ends up as the solution.
A recent Financial Review article (How to navigate the aged care maze afr.com ) clearly illustrates why this is such a difficult issue. But the biggest issue is not what the article is about.  The real issue is that the article, like much of the commentary on aged care, disguises an inconvenient reality.

The inconvenient reality

Few of us really want to live in a nursing home for the rest of our lives.  The problem is that there are few other options, available today. 

Behind the commentary are two further problems. Firstly there is an assumption that as we grow older we all become dependent and need to be looked after.  Consequently the nursing home question is just a matter of time.

Secondly, it is the industry itself that is promoting the current arrangements.  We know that the number of people over 65 years predicted to increase significantly in the next 20 years. By propagating the current reality (and stifling any real alternatives) the the industry is betting that consumers and families will put pressure on governments to increase the funding for the existing aged care model.

The article also demonstrates that so-called government reforms are just tinkering with an aged care system (and applying user-pay to fund it) when it needs a radical reform.

The alternatives

Even on today’s trends, less than 10% of people over 65 live in a nursing home.  Most of us would prefer to live at home, and we should consider affordable options that make this possible.

In the future it is likely that only those people who cannot look after themselves at all, or who are a danger to themselves or others in independent living, will need to access the high level of care found in residential aged care.  Society won’t be able to afford more than this.

Increasingly, as we, the baby boomer generation, observe the experiences of our elderly parents and confronts our own ageing, we will challenge and reinvent how we live as we live longer.

What might the future look like?

Emerging technology will either entrench existing approaches, or help build supportive local communities and encourage new approaches. These will go beyond current aged care offerings and deliver better social outcomes at lower cost to the public purse. This will depend on what kind of future we want and can afford.

This is why the Living Better Conversation is important.  Together we need to identify what we want. Only then can we usefully discuss how we achieve this.  If we don’t know what we do want, we depend on others to decide this for us. And the track record of governments and self interested groups is not promising.

Technology to live better

Technology to live better as we live longer

Role of technology

This post discusses whether emerging technology can help us to live better, as we live longer.

Even with disabilities and health conditions that restrict or limit our daily activities, more than 90% of people over 75 years still live in their own homes and will continue to do so into very old age. Despite media providing a picture of doom and gloom surrounding ageing and aged care, this means that the vast majority of us can expect to live independently (and avoid residential aged care) for the rest of our lives.

One of the reasons that many people are able to do so is because of the ongoing assistance of informal caregivers.  Our wives, husbands, daughters, sons, grandchildren, friends and neighbours all provide support on an “informal” basis (rather than being paid to provide care).

To date, technology has only played a minor role in helping caregivers and their loved ones living independently at home.  This is changing.

What technology can do

By providing an online marketplace for support and care, technology facilitates new approaches, making it easy to:

  • Build online circles of support, to be called on as and when needed.
  • Arrange needed support.
  • Offer support to loved ones.  By helping others, we remain productive members of our families and society.

In this way technology can help build sustainable local communities that harness the latent goodwill and resources of the informal sector.  These communities can then better utilise the scarce, expensive professional health and aged care resources.  This is good for the economy and the community!

Such technology is not just a dream, it is available today.

For example, LivBetter is an App and online software that makes it easy to ask for help and to offer help.

This is technology to live better as we live longer!

Embracing the future, together.

Create the New Old Age Together

This is the 2nd introduction to the Living Better Conversation where we suggest that we have an opportunity to create the new old age together.  We’re living longer, let’s also live better!

Want to live in a nursing home for the rest of your life?

How many articles have you read that predict increasing demand for care and estimate the number of new nursing home beds we need?  Most analysis simply assumes that the government will fund this, despite the reality that, at the same time, the public purse is shrinking.

Such debate about the demand for, or supply of nursing home beds hides a bigger reality. No matter how these beds are funded or how wisely the current system is reformed, no one actually wants to use it.  Nor will the majority of us be able to afford it.

What choice do we have?

Using yesterday’s attitudes, social mores and policy models to plan our futures won’t work.  We need to think about how we want to live as we grow older.  Only then can we determine the best ways to do achieve this.

Despite the scaremongering that surrounds the aging agenda, less than 10% of people aged 65 and over live in nursing homes, and only about 14% choose to live in retirement villages.

Create the new old age, together

Most of us choose to remain living at home, and will continue to do so into very old age.

  • If we are honest, old age is the natural progression of life from childhood to adolescence to adulthood and on.  It is not a problem, but an opportunity to do things differently.
  • The concept of “lifters” (providers) and “leaners” (dependents) is also simplistic; in reality we can all play multiple roles, sometimes changing from one to another many times in one day.

As in previous generations, we become (or remain) vulnerable in many ways as we grow old.  But we also have the potential to be active and productive, long after the traditional age of retirement.

Contributing to our family, friends and communities is an important part of life, and living well. Modern technological, economic and social environmental breakthroughs make new ways of contributing possible.

Growing old is not all doom and gloom.  Together we can create the new old age!

The New Old Age

Create The New Old Age

This is the first post to introduce the Living Better Conversation.  We’re living longer, can we also live better?   For those of us who want to continue living independently at home, we suggest that we need to change our thinking to create the New Old Age.

What’s the problem?

Many commentators have described Australia’s structural ageing. Much of the discussion is sensationalist, suggesting a silver tsunami of crisis proportions, a problem to be solved.

Such commentary is, in itself problematic because it encourages a victim mentality and implies helplessness and dependency. We constrain our thinking by assuming that older people are dependent, consumers of resources and a burden on their families and society:

  • It propagates a model of ageing that defines old age as a period of decline, loss, infirmity and dependency. We medicalise ageing.
  • This thinking means that we then have to provide more and more care for our elderly, which we know will be difficult and costly with funding needed from governments and individuals.

What do we want instead?

Retirement in the future is not only going to be about moving to the beach or to the golf course, even if you can afford it.

  • As we grow older most of us want to remain productive members of our families and society; society also needs this.
  • Family and friends want to support loved ones, or others at home. Often the care load falls on one person and it is not easy to offer the right support at the right time.

Create The New Old Age

As we, the Baby Boomer generation, experience the ageing of our elderly parents and confront our own ageing, we will need to challenge and reinvent what we now understand as retirement and ageing. We will change the way we age; how we will live, work and play as we live longer.

This conversation is about how we want to live for the rest of our lives – what the New Old Age looks like.

Living better by doing. You’re not as old as you feel, you’re as young as you do!

Exploring our name and functions.

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A New Old Age emerging from the clouds of denial of our own ageing

This article explores the concept of living better by doing, using the LivBetter technology.

How many times have you head someone say: “I don’t feel that old”, or “I feel much younger”?

Here’s the thing.   How does one “feel” an age?   Age is not an emotion, physical sensation, etc. it’s a measure of time. The time has passed; therefore I am the age I am now. I do not “feel” that age. I cannot touch it and what’s it supposed to feel like anyway.

I don’t like the term young at heart either. It is a denial of where one is. I don’t think denial makes any difference to what reality is. We can say whatever we want, but it won’t change what is. If we try to deny where we are, we are missing the experience of it. I think there is an experience of getting older.  

What if we just live fully as we are, not wishing to be ahead of it or behind.   You’re as young as you do!

That’s why we developed LivBetter, an App and online software to make it easy to put your hand up at any age, and to get help when needed.  This helps people to live independently at home for longer.